Monday, December 30, 2013

Alleviate Suffering Through Forgiveness

When we hurt from someone else’s wrong doing, we are agreeing with their attitude.

We are agreeing that they can be a bully and we can be a victim.

When we disagree with that stance and take ownership of the situation, we can change from suffering to independence and strength and freedom.

How we want to feel is our choice.

Regardless of what has been done in the past, the system seeks to balance itself, whether or not justice is served.

I choose to let the system rebalance according to a different set of laws.

I forgive myself for ever reacting to a bully.

Even when I didn’t know what was hidden in my past and I was reacting to it, I kept working to change my course.

Now that I know more about it, I am glad that I have so much practice in redirecting myself.

I can now make that practice and my choices doubly effective.

I always knew to aim for more happiness.

Now I know how to do so with more clarity.

I have a basis for loving and cherishing myself.

I have a basis for living in peace with myself.

It is disappointing to discover the hidden negative behaviors of people I once knew, but I choose to know myself even better and to love myself even more.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Friday, December 27, 2013

Community and Communion

This holiday season I find that I am not cringing from too many loud gatherings of family and friends.

My husband and I made a conscious effort to contribute to several celebrations, but we did it ahead of time (i.e. mailed gifts) and also met with only a single couple or a small group at several different times.

I find that I am grateful I stood up for my own desires this holiday season.

I enjoyed the celebrations and they were not overwhelming for me at all.

I still have energy and I am thinking about ways to continue contributing and celebrating many more times during the year.

Perhaps I will have a single kid celebration, kind of like recognition on a birthday, only it won’t be loud or compete with other things that are going on.

Perhaps I will simply decide what I value most about a person and let him/her know in some individual way.

Perhaps, even on traditional holidays, I will come up with a unique way to celebrate it and let people know I value them.

I am energized to keep reinventing my community and to allow it to grow gently and quietly as more of a communion than a festival, perhaps.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Monday, December 23, 2013

My Happy Energy Dissolves Unhappiness

My happy energy dissolves unhappiness and the places it resides in me.

If I am feeling ill or unsettled in any part of my life or body, I know that a dose of authentic happiness will revive me.

To make it a habit, I now cultivate happiness energy.

The strength of overcoming hidden negative influences naturally leads to the cultivation of positive and happy ones.

In addition to my technique of “Fallback Affirmations” ( Your Diamond Mind), I have added a few other tools and techniques.

I cultivate or invent happy memories.

I make them up or create imaginary positive events and place myself in a prominent place in them.

It’s healthier and way more fun than reviewing old negative settings.

I know that my divinity and infinity have access to all the spiritual resources I could ever need.

This is a fun way to play with them.

Another great game is following up on intuitions.

In a happy frame of mind, I see them everywhere.

Just doing one little thing in the direction of an intuition rewards me for listening to it.

I am so happy and proud of myself.

I took a step in a positive direction.

I consciously cultivated it and made a move toward it.

That lightens my load and helps me increase my energy of happiness.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Friday, December 20, 2013

The Last Stand

Once all the illusions are stripped away, there is only the original lie.

I was surprised at its vehemence and the conviction and strength with which it reacted to deter me from my goal.

But I had built up such a conviction of light, love and a sense of the divine within me that I was only a witness to that battle.

It made its last stand in my mind.

I was shocked and surprised at its hatefulness.

No wonder it had to hide for so long.

If it had been seen and exposed for what it was, it would never have been allowed to stay and work its secret ways into my life.

But pouring in the light and developing the conviction that, despite all I was taught during all the child trauma, I do, indeed, love myself, did defeat the enemy of the first lie.

And I am whole.

I am now on my own calm ground, in peace of my own mind and in peace of surroundings which I choose for myself.

I have that power.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Many Routes to Happiness

There are many routes to happiness besides the Western one.

I taught music lessons in the homes of the wealthiest people in the Dallas area for four years.

I used to say that I taught in millions of dollars worth of office space.

But I did not always teach happy children.

And though I often saw very happy families, there were also tense, unhappy, pressured families as well.

Happiness consists of being the person who does what she loves to do.

With what one young friend calls, “passion and purpose”, we can live happily with fulfillment.

That answer looks different to different people.

We complement one another with our differences and preferences.

That is why there really is a route to world happiness.

We all have to embrace it in our own different ways.

It is not a case of competing for limited world resources.

It is the will to allow everyone to live well.

The more individuals who find this way help lay the groundwork for the next individuals.

The more corporations who look to the well-being of both employees and their surroundings help lay the groundwork for the next corporate steps.

The triple bottom line works for everyone - people, place, profit.

We all participate as we take, and encourage others to take, steps to happiness.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Thursday, December 12, 2013

One Thousand Into Ten Thousand

A thousand misunderstandings shall fall at your side.
Ten thousand understandings shall dissolve and replace them.

A thousand regrets are replaced with ten thousand acts of self-compassion and opportunities for service.

A thousand thunderheads of misunderstandings are carried away by the wisps of the wind and changed into ten thousand understandings.

A thousand small pains are dissolved and resolved into ten thousand celebrations of light and understanding.

A thousand small misunderstandings are dissolved and resolved into ten thousand  communications of support.

A thousand negative thoughts are replaced with ten thousand dedicated conscious acts of kindness toward ourselves and others.

A thousand negative attitudes are reversed by ten thousand acts of loving kindness and compassion.

A thousand historical attitudes of despair are reversed by ten thousand current acts of understanding.

A thousand misleading directives are reversed by the inner guidance of ten thousand willing hearts.

A thousand acts of despair are reversed and replaced by ten thousand acts of hope and upliftment.

A thousand attitudes of ignorance are replaced with the desire of ten thousand for understanding.

A thousand acts of anger are replaced by ten thousand acts of peace.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Monday, December 9, 2013

Specific Care

My first deep breath is of appreciation for the many ways things can work out.

My second deep breath is for everyone I know who appreciates the many ways things can work out.

My third deep breath is for everyone I don’t even know all over the planet who appreciates the many ways things can work out.


Even without knowing how or why, there are so many changes in our plans.

With the infinite resources of the Universe, it is possible to experience good in the unexpected ways that things work out.

I am learning that I can naturally enjoy myself while things change unexpectedly around me and just watch the new arrangements take shape.

I am learning to keep focusing my thought on good, positive feelings of expectation as things shift.

There is such a peaceful atmosphere around me and those whom I see.

Even though I hear some comments, I am undisturbed by them.

I am learning how to shape my experience from within.

I can appreciate the Universe’s care for each of us.

I appreciate the specific good care and the ways I, and all those upon whom my thought rests, are being taken care of.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Unexpected Ways

Even when things are not going as planned, there is still room for lots of good things to work out.

I am so grateful for the continuing habit of focusing my thoughts on sharing uplifting thoughts within and letting them take shape without.

When previous arrangements are forced to change, the Universe still has Its infinite resources to share with us.

I am finding that these resources, in addition to taking care of me, are able to be shared in a timely way which reaches beyond what I could see or plan and includes many others as well.

It is a much more peaceful approach.

I find I am surrounded by entire peaceful situations, which in a previous mode of thought might not have seemed so peaceful and harmonious.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage