What you know to be true about yourself is that you are good, intelligent, have a sense of humor, and that you enjoy certain things.
It is possible that you were told lies about yourself when you were little or while on the job.
You can tell the difference.
You know what is true about yourself and what is false.
The quickest way to improve your life is to not feel outrage, but forgive the misunderstanding and to move on.
Usually, I react and then have to go through the steps to release myself from a harmful emotional state and to reinstate my peace of mind.
Quick release of a lie does not give it any weight in your thought or emotions.
Instead, you have a sense of fulfilling peace and calm and appreciation for who you really are.
This is the best approach.
Otherwise, the steps to release are the next most valuable.
Utilize your power of evaluation to recognize who you are.
Recognize that the person telling you a lie is not acting in their best interest, and simply note that fact without judging the person.
Do not respond to the lie.
Respond by being true to yourself and how you best express yourself.
You may say something impersonal like, “Thank you for telling me.”
That acknowledges that you heard the person, but does not accept the validity of the statement.
Then go about your business.
There is nothing for rage and anger to latch onto in a calm mind and demeanor.
You know that you are good and true.
Release the lie and continue being who you are.
© 2017 Kathryn Hardage